Navigating Relationships with Your Adult Children
I find myself coaching in this area more and more—and for good reason. The relationship between parents and adult children can be one of the most meaningful… and one of the most challenging.
The good news? In most cases, a healthy relationship is still possible
Major key factors for a healthy parent-adult child relationship:
•freedom over control
•acceptance does not mean approval
•find common ground
•as much as it is within you, keep the communication open
•be aware of unhealthy co-dependency
•stay curious, resist judgement
•pray without ceasing
•you are not responsible for their happiness
•likewise, they are not responsible for your happiness
Many parents assume that once their child reaches adulthood, things will naturally get easier. Often, they don’t. Today’s cultural pressures, shifting values, and messaging around independence can make these relationships even more complex.
Sometimes the relationship is simply strained, and it helps to know you’ve done all you can to leave the door open for connection. Other times, the wounds run deeper—calling for forgiveness, healing, and honest reflection. Disappointment can quietly turn into bitterness. Regret and shame create distance where love longs to restore closeness.
Every situation is unique. There is no one-size-fits-all approach. Coaching offers a safe place to process what’s really going on—to be heard, to work through fears, and to move toward healing, both in your heart and in your relationships.
I believe there is real reason for hope—because of who God is. He is a God of restoration and forgiveness. As it says in Gospel of John 10:10, “He came that we may have life, and have it to the full.”
The waters of life transitions...empty nest, retirement, new marriage...are more easily navigated with coaching
IDENTITY.
Discover the truth about who you are.
You are so much more than what you do, how you look, what you own.
Replace lies with the truth.
STRENGTHS & GIFTS.
You have been uniquely made. There is no one like you, no one else has your special qualities or platform. Discover your uniqueness.
KNOW YOUR WORTH.
Until you understand your true worth, you will lack the confidence and the courage to go for your dreams.
PASSION.
You have areas in your life that bring you joy, break your heart or make you mad. Explore these areas in coaching to find your place to grow.
LIVE LIFE TO THE FULL!
With limited resources of time, money and energy. We cannot chase every need or opportunity. Let’s get focused and intentional.
Love yourself
If you are anything like me, I wasn’t even sure I was supposed to love myself! After careful study, I am convinced it is essential! You are a created being by the most high God. Without self love, we will neglect our mental, emotional and physical health. We will not achieve our goals or aim higher. We will continually lack confidence that will keep us in “safe” places and never step out into the unknown or our true calling. Without love for ourselves, we will break the committments we make to ourselves. When we fully understand our identity, our unique strengths and believe our true worth, dial into our passions, live intentionally and truly love ourselves—we will live with more joy! Life to full! (John 10:10)
